Letting go of perfectionism: building sustainable habits for mental health
As January approaches, the pressure to reinvent ourselves can feel overwhelming. We’re often told to set ambitious resolutions, but these can backfire, leaving us feeling stuck or defeated. What if, instead, we focused on letting go of perfectionism and embracing habits that support our well-being?
The problem with perfectionism
Perfectionism can be paralyzing, especially when setting goals. Lofty expectations often lead to feelings of failure if we don’t meet them. But here’s the truth: growth is not about achieving perfection. It’s about progress, however small it may seem.
Practicing self-compassion is key to breaking free from perfectionism. Instead of criticizing yourself for unmet goals, take time to acknowledge what you did accomplish. For instance, maybe you didn’t exercise as much as you planned, but you prioritized your mental health by getting enough rest or spending time with friends or family. These moments matter, and they’re worth celebrating.
Building habits that stick
Sustainable mental health habits don’t require dramatic life changes. Start small and choose habits that fit into your daily routine. Here are some examples:
Take short breaks during the day to stretch, breathe, or step outside.
Write down one thing you’re grateful for each evening.
Set a weekly “check-in” to reflect on your emotions and needs.
Consistency is more important than intensity. Small, repeated actions can have a lasting impact on your mental well-being. And remember, no change is too small. Even a five-minute walk or a single deep breath can make a difference.
Letting go of societal pressure
January often comes with the idea that we need to completely transform ourselves. This idea can be harmful, especially when it forces us to chase ideals that don’t align with our values.
One of the best gifts you can give yourself is permission to set your own path. Ask yourself:
What truly brings me joy?
How can I create a life that reflects my values?
Am I pursuing goals for myself or to meet someone else’s expectations?
Working with a counsellor can be helpful in identifying what’s meaningful to you and what habits make sense for your life.
Embracing progress, not perfection
When we focus on the process rather than the outcome, it becomes easier to adapt and grow. If you have an off day, give yourself grace. Sustainable change comes from showing up, trying again, and staying open to imperfection.
This year, let go of the pressure to be perfect. Focus on habits that feel achievable, celebrate your small wins, and remember that progress is always worth celebrating. If you’re looking for extra support or guidance along the way, Counselling Alberta is here to help you thrive. Reach out to learn more and take the first step toward your mental well-being.
Information for this blog was provided by psychologist, Lisa McIssac.